NUMBER 22[ Why Be a Snob]

Have you ever been in an ongoing relationship, of any sort, with a snob?

I don't recall ever being around a snob for any length of time, thank God!!

Perhaps I am a little shallow for my attitude towards snobs, but, I have such a difficult time understanding the mindset of these select few. Most snobs are ugly old women. Now don't get me wrong, I love women but the truth of the matter is that in my experience it is the unattractive older women that are snobs, mostly the wives of successful men.

Then the next group of snobs fall into the category of young attractive females that came from relatively upper class families. A few young men from these same families are also bitten by this snobbischsnubnose home dwelling bug, a bug that nobody has been able to capture to date, but I have seen them.

These first two types of snobs give the impression that they are ROYALTY, that they are better than the rest of us less fortunate people of society, that is, the vast majority of us.

My mind really gets tangled up though when I encounter those snobs that are both ugly and poor. Now that is mind boggling to me, but I must qualify that, by reminding you that my dad didn't call me son because he thought I was overly bright.

I have for many years tried to understand snobs. Are they truly just simply better than others regardless of their station in life, or are they taught by their parents that they are better? All classes of snobs unfortunately are unaware of their invalid thing.

Do snobs even know that they are being snobbish, and do they realize that snobbery is an unattractive characteristic to possess? Nobody likes a snob, not even another snob, so why would anyone want to be a snob? The more snobbish you become the more unattractive you become.

Unlike the physically beautiful or handsome snob, a physically unattractive person can be a real pleasure to be around, they can be a total delight to be with.

I love beauty but I promise you that I do not desire to be around a beautiful or handsome snob because snobbery will overshadow any of their positive traits that would otherwise be a pleasure to experience.

The snobs that are of the poor and ugly class are of the most puzzling ones to me.

Do these poor and ugly snobs think that they are better than those that are ' more' fortunate? Do they perhaps feel that their position,though considered less desirable by the many, gives them a greater perspective that the most important things in life are not dependent on wealth or beauty?
I must say, perhaps invalidly, that I have considered whether these snobs are born out of a bitterness towards the more fortunate.

I have also wondered if some snobbery arises out of a defensive response to their sense of insecurity or low self esteem.

Snobbery is truly a pet peeve of mine, so much so, that I can believe that some counseling on the issue might do me some good.

The bottom line is that, though I despise snobbery, I still can like the snob. I just have to keep in mind that the snobbery is not the person but merely a character flaw somewhat like a wart on the end of your nose.

If you fall into the category of the snobbish class of society it might be to your overall benefit to work on growing out of being a snob.

I truly think that snobbery is a learned, unattractive behavior, but if you enjoy being a snob, by all means be the biggest snob you can be. There's no need being second rate. Just remember, the greater success you have at becoming a snob, the less attractive you will become and the more difficult it will be to acquire friends.


Finton